For over 3 years our world has been all about this one little girl. Is it strange that I just cannot wrap my mind around the idea that we will feel the same way about the next one? Does everyone wonder about this before their second child?
I don't know if everyone worries about it but I sure did. I was afraid I wouldn't be able to love my second one as much as my first and even my third as much as the other two. But some how your heart just grows. I was afraid my firstborn would feel cheated but their love grows too. It was so fun to watch him give such sincere love to his sister. Now they are rivaling siblings. :) So, yes, you will be able to love the second one just as much. But there definatley is something about the first born that never goes away. I think because they are the first one that teaches you. Good luck, and just know it will be ok.
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of course they do!!! I have 3 boys and with each I thought "will I love them as much..will they get enough attention...will the others" and you know, it just all works out. It is amazing the capacity of our hearts to love. Each child is so different but the love is the same :)
but it is true about the first born. my first is not loved more but he does have a special place in my heart.
I wondered the very same thing. But...it is true...you can love two equally! Your heart just grow instead of splitting into. Sometimes, I feel sorry for my oldest because he is not getting all the attention anymore...and sometimes I feel sorry for my youngest because he never go absolute total one on one time for my life to be only about him. However, when I watch them play together, it does my heart good to know they will always have each other. I am so thankful and so blessed to have them both! Good luck & you will be so surprised how your heart will expand the minute you lay eyes on your beautiful boy!
When I was pregnant with my second I read something to the effect of, "When your first child is born you realize the depth of your love. When your second child is born you realize the breadth of your love." It was very comforting for me in those final weeks before my second was born and it couldn't be closer to the truth.
I found out that I was pregnant when my first was only 5 months old! Not what we had planned. I was so in love with Isobel, and was almost angry that I would be losing that time with her. It has taken time to adjust, and there are times that it hasn't been easy, but you will feel your love expand as your family expands. It will be a different feeling, but then again so is each step that we take through life!
I more wondered how I was going to handle two little ones. Ours are 18 months apart... *L*
I always knew that I had enough love for both... Just thought the time managment would be tricky... And it is somedays. But you do the best you can and all will work out. As long as they each know that you love them individually all will be fine!
I also take days where I only take one out at a time for a day. For some one-on-one. It seems to help!
You will do wonderfull! :D
I'm right there with you. My due date is rapidly approaching and I find myself feeling so sentimental about our (almost) 3 year old daughter. We're not the first people to have to kids...we'll get through it, right? :)
Yes, they do. I believe it is on every mother's mind. I was happy to bring a second child into our family but didn't know how I'd love another child as much. Your heart just opens up without even trying. It is amazing.
I cried the night I put Lana to bed, knowing I was in labor and that the baby would be born before she woke in the morning. I was sad that it's wasn't just going to be the two of us anymore, that things were going to change. But once Isaac was born that feeling was gone.
I have no reservations with #3 on the way and know my heart will just get that much bigger!
Don't worry about feeling this way, so many parents do. Once the baby arrives everything changes. It's wonderful!
It took me longer to fall in love with my second at least in my experience. In all honesty it was probably 5 months before I felt like Oliver was part of our family and loved as much as Mason. With the third it hasn't taken as long. The biggest challenge for me besides the obvious ones of no sleep and another human being to take care of.... was the mourning that I did over Mason not being my baby anymore. It was no longer just him and I hanging out and it was so hard to swallow (still is).
♥ Emma was 4 when we found out we were finally pregnant again. I was so thrilled I didn't think much about that. I was just excited to have another baby on the way and then at 5 months we found out it was going to be twins... :)
to answer your question: yes.
and will you love your next more or less?
No. You'll love them the same- but you will compare them at times, and you will have your favorite at times- and then they will have childhood scars for the rest of their life.
A definite and profound yes, everyday for my entire pregnancy. That is why we found out what we were having and picked out a name so we could start bonding in every way. You'll be surprised at how instantaneously you fall in love all over again and how there is definately room in your hearts~~
We planned #2 quite quickly. When my little man turned 1 we knew we were going to try for #2. I wasn't worried but because I was so in love with him, I wondered how I couldn't possibly love another one as much, as fully or as equally. It is amazing how much love Mommies have. Somehow you are able to love each one with 100% not 50% of your heart. Each one get a full 100%. True!
I can not speak from experience, but I am quite certain it is a natural feeling.
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Hi...for sure everyone initially feels like u do...cute story..My niece had an almost 4 year old when the newest baby arrived....he was not happy at all lol...ignored the baby, threw more tantrums, etc...very jealous...and they have a hard time expressing that emotion.. BOYZ! I guess he kept thinking it was temporary lol...cuz one day he had a very serious talk with his dad about that new baby...The next day...he went to preschool..and announced: YEP GRIFFIN IS STAYING> HE AINT GOING NOWHERE lmaoooooooooo...in the last couple months he has truly embraced his baby bro...sings to him with made up songs (cuz his bro luvs him already) when his mom has to go potty or do something...so he feels like a babysitter lol...You will be fine...Let your daughter start singing songs to her sibling now...let her draw pics of what she thinks the baby will look like...scrap it...use a voice recorder...and treasure it all...time flies so fast..Congrads to you and your family..Your daughter is so beautiful..cher
i love the name lydia..it's my oldest daughter's name! yes, i think that most everyone does feel that way. but it is unfounded, just know that your love multiplies you don't have to divide it.
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You are totally normal...funny though your heart just keeps making room, and after your little guy is here, you'll wonder how you ever survived without him too.
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I completely wondered the same thing about Daughter #2 and AGAIN with #3. Somehow, your little bubble of family love stretches to make room for that new person. I can't imagine life without any of them.
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